When I was planning on Kitty to be here last weekend, and during my hunt for an adventure next month with he and Lux, I started just poking through different events in the area. Looking at all the options available to find something fun.
And, I found a lot of weird play events in this area. One with such odd rules and pricing structures, it completely turned me off to them.
Things like only allowing men to have "bisexual" play and sex in one room, as if their gay might start catching through the rest of the venue. And means that any play can't possibly happen without sex being involved, or that any boy touching another boy in any fashion must mean they're gay.
But, that doesn't count for girls. Girls can grab boobs and beat up other girls wherever they want.
Because, that's fair.
And the pricing got me even more pissed.
Single girls were free.
Single men weren't allowed, even if an escort for a girl.
Any couples had to be listed as being so on fet, where they vetted attendees before inviting them, which would essentially mean I couldn't go with either Kitty or Lux. And there was different pricing for couples intending to play with others, or only together.
Reading this, and finding out it was the normal in a lot of events had me pissed. It's so disrespectful to everyone as a whole.
I mean, I understand doing discounted tickets for couples at events. Usually people will bring a partner, and if you further provide discounts from there, it includes poly structures to attend together. However, for people like me, who see plastering partners all over social media as a bit of a joke, forcing people to be "fetlife official" in order to bring a partner is ridiculous.
Everyone is equal, and trying to push events sexually into whatever the mainstream finds more attractive, and worse, pushing what might be seen as unattractive aside where it is "acknowledged" but in a way where it can't be seen is terrible.
Treat people like people. Sure, it might be convenient to me to be able to walk into a lot of places for free or damn near it, but I'll take inconvenience to see everyone on equal footing.