Many of us around here often joke that Oliver is fat. He's not, but to keep my mom from completely overfeeding him, we make the jokes, but don't put much behind it.
Anyway, one day while making these jokes, my mom responded "Yea, well, I give him so much because I love him"
And I had to choke down yelling at her. That feeding him piles of things he shouldn't have isn't love. That ignoring what he needs when he's saying so, encouraging poor behavior, and barely spending any actual time with him isn't love. It's selfish convenience.
Like when she buys clothes for Squishy that she doesn't like, but then tries to force Squishy to wear them just because she likes them. It's not love. It's again being selfish, and incredibly inconsiderate.
Love is taking on compromise. It's doing things you don't always want to do (in a healthy way of course) in order to take care of people when they need it. It's considering them all the time, and balancing that with yourself, which is hopefully easier than it sounds. Celebrating those individual needs and wants is enjoying them for being themself, and not just forcing them to always only be what you want them to.
Only doing and being what you want isn't love. It's being a selfish shit.
Anyway, one day while making these jokes, my mom responded "Yea, well, I give him so much because I love him"
And I had to choke down yelling at her. That feeding him piles of things he shouldn't have isn't love. That ignoring what he needs when he's saying so, encouraging poor behavior, and barely spending any actual time with him isn't love. It's selfish convenience.
Like when she buys clothes for Squishy that she doesn't like, but then tries to force Squishy to wear them just because she likes them. It's not love. It's again being selfish, and incredibly inconsiderate.
Love is taking on compromise. It's doing things you don't always want to do (in a healthy way of course) in order to take care of people when they need it. It's considering them all the time, and balancing that with yourself, which is hopefully easier than it sounds. Celebrating those individual needs and wants is enjoying them for being themself, and not just forcing them to always only be what you want them to.
Only doing and being what you want isn't love. It's being a selfish shit.
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