I was standing at the bus stop waiting for Squishy a while ago, and heard a couple outside. As one of them walked out to their car, I heard them tell their partner they loved them. Then, in that cutesy way you see in shows, they went back and forth with saying they love the other more.
And it went on for a few minutes, that exchange keeping them from moving, but rather than hearing endearment in their voice, it sounded just like routine. Like they were doing this just because they were expected to.
The words held less and less meaning over time, and honestly seemed like the same sort of gesture as washing your hands after using the bathroom. Like it was something done so often that it was just habit. Something ingrained and expected, rather than something felt.
Mind you, I've been trying to be more mindful about being affirming to people lately. Trying to tell people that I care, and give positive messages more often to help both inside of our space, and maybe make more mental comfort outside of it.
The difference though, is that these things are said with feeling. They're said when they're needed. They are used only as often as they hold meaning. Not a constant habit, and something that may be presented differently, to keep them from feeling empty.
Like all things, there's balance, and we need to learn to keep the meaning behind words, as much as we need to remember to share how we feel.
And it went on for a few minutes, that exchange keeping them from moving, but rather than hearing endearment in their voice, it sounded just like routine. Like they were doing this just because they were expected to.
The words held less and less meaning over time, and honestly seemed like the same sort of gesture as washing your hands after using the bathroom. Like it was something done so often that it was just habit. Something ingrained and expected, rather than something felt.
Mind you, I've been trying to be more mindful about being affirming to people lately. Trying to tell people that I care, and give positive messages more often to help both inside of our space, and maybe make more mental comfort outside of it.
The difference though, is that these things are said with feeling. They're said when they're needed. They are used only as often as they hold meaning. Not a constant habit, and something that may be presented differently, to keep them from feeling empty.
Like all things, there's balance, and we need to learn to keep the meaning behind words, as much as we need to remember to share how we feel.
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