A while ago, my mom and I were out to lunch after running a bunch of errands. We're sitting in a local diner, waiting on our food, and she mentions how my old man refuses to do anything for himself, and has never actually had to do for himself. We talk about it for a bit, and then she makes the comment of "You had better hope I outlive him, so that you don't have to take care of him."
And I didn't even pause before responding. I told her that she had better hope one of her other kids steps up, because I'm not doing it. That with how he treats me every day if he says I'm too stupid to have a conversation with, that I'm too stupid to take care of him.
I said it very plainly, and sternly, and she just looked at me as if something clicked and she was afraid. She didn't argue, or respond in any way, and just sat quietly for a moment. As if in that moment, she realized that her husband is actually abusive, and that I sit and tolerate more than she knows, but that there are some consequences.
At least, I hope that's what it was.
Because if this is something that actually sticks, in a way that didn't cause he to just attack me where we were, she may have started to get the necessary kick in the ass of just how toxic the two of them are.
They've both fought growth and emotional maturity for so long that it's going to take more than just that one kick in the ass, but if this is the first step, maybe some day I'll actually be treated like a person.
I doubt it though. I'm probably much better off just permanently cutting them from my life at the first chance.