While reading through blogs lately, I came across one that discussed a man cheating on his submissive partner, and the after effects, as well as ideas on monogamy in today's society.
It mentioned how she felt guilty after. That she deserved to be cheated on, and that it was her fault that her dom did what he did. And dear gods did this throw up red flags for me. It's such an external sign of emotional abuse. That the partner who destroyed the trust in a relationship couldn't possibly have been a douchebag, but rather the other party was so horrible that it forced him to do what they did.
It's bullshit.
In case you read that wrong the first time, here it is again.
BULLSHIT.
No one deserves to be cheated on. Nothing warrants the destruction of trust, or the pain involved in going behind a partner's back. Even with everything partner's have done to me in the past, I never cheated on them in return. It's such an inconsiderate action based on pure selfishness.
It then talked about how monogamy might not be a viable concept in today's society.
Which, is also bullshit.
If people are wired for polyamory, then they need to be upfront with that, and find a partner with compatible views.
If they prefer an open relationship with only one romantic partner, then the same theory applies.
And if someone is both monoamorous, and monosexual, again, they simply need to find a partner that fits them.
And if someone is a cheating asshat, then they need a searing hot metal blade shoved up their urethra, so they can't cheat anymore.
Cheating is not the need to have sex with multiple people. It's throwing away concern for your partner.
Could not agree more! Well said!
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