I very nearly had to walk in and give my father a reality check the other day.
I was sitting in the living room reading, and heard him getting louder, of course needing to show my mom everything he scrolled through on social media, and talk about how everyone is stupid and wrong. This time he was showing her a picture of a girl with tattoos.
He says "You have all these beautiful girls, and they force you to try and see past these tattoos. They're just a fad right now, and people don't understand that when they get older, it won't be a fad anymore, and then they'll just be ugly."
My mother responds with "They don't know it isn't attractive. I see all these people come in with things that get pierced, and then they get infected and they wind up with issues from it."
And oh, did I want to walk in there. To storm in like a fucking hurricane. To explain that these girls are beautiful. Full fucking stop. They are beautiful because these tattoos being them comfort in their skin, and make them feel like the person they are, and not despite having them. That they know those tattoos are forever, and that a tattoo they wear every day makes them happier and costs less in the long run than the thousands many people spend on jewelry and only wear once.
Not even that, but they don't get them to be "attractive" to others. Not because they want to be sexy to others, but because it is what they want. You don't consider other people when making choices about your own body. You do what you want, and what makes you happy.
And no, tattoos are not a fad. They date back thousands of years, and in almost every culture to some extent. In many of them, tattoos were either a symbol of status, or a way to denote occupation or family. Tattoos are something people have historically worn with pride, and not as a trend. Mermaid hair is a trend or a fad.
Which, on that note, talking about the risks of piercings as definites is bullshit. You don't get a piercing with the intention of having a risk or side effect happen. Just like every time you dye your hair you risk having an allergic reaction to a new brand of dye. You get it because you enjoy it. You take care of it as well as you can, and still sometimes something happens that is out of your control.
I mean, fuck, even my mother had a helix piercing keloid and reject. It's not like she expected that to happen when she got it.
Saying that you don't find tattoos or piercings attractive is one thing. It is your preference. However saying it in absolutes is a complete disrespect for people, and shows your own closed-mindedness and ignorance.
I was sitting in the living room reading, and heard him getting louder, of course needing to show my mom everything he scrolled through on social media, and talk about how everyone is stupid and wrong. This time he was showing her a picture of a girl with tattoos.
He says "You have all these beautiful girls, and they force you to try and see past these tattoos. They're just a fad right now, and people don't understand that when they get older, it won't be a fad anymore, and then they'll just be ugly."
My mother responds with "They don't know it isn't attractive. I see all these people come in with things that get pierced, and then they get infected and they wind up with issues from it."
And oh, did I want to walk in there. To storm in like a fucking hurricane. To explain that these girls are beautiful. Full fucking stop. They are beautiful because these tattoos being them comfort in their skin, and make them feel like the person they are, and not despite having them. That they know those tattoos are forever, and that a tattoo they wear every day makes them happier and costs less in the long run than the thousands many people spend on jewelry and only wear once.
Not even that, but they don't get them to be "attractive" to others. Not because they want to be sexy to others, but because it is what they want. You don't consider other people when making choices about your own body. You do what you want, and what makes you happy.
And no, tattoos are not a fad. They date back thousands of years, and in almost every culture to some extent. In many of them, tattoos were either a symbol of status, or a way to denote occupation or family. Tattoos are something people have historically worn with pride, and not as a trend. Mermaid hair is a trend or a fad.
Which, on that note, talking about the risks of piercings as definites is bullshit. You don't get a piercing with the intention of having a risk or side effect happen. Just like every time you dye your hair you risk having an allergic reaction to a new brand of dye. You get it because you enjoy it. You take care of it as well as you can, and still sometimes something happens that is out of your control.
I mean, fuck, even my mother had a helix piercing keloid and reject. It's not like she expected that to happen when she got it.
Saying that you don't find tattoos or piercings attractive is one thing. It is your preference. However saying it in absolutes is a complete disrespect for people, and shows your own closed-mindedness and ignorance.
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