Conditioning

Lux and I respond to random questions that float around on Tumblr once in a while, sharing our thoughts on power exchange, and level happy relationships. 

Lately, he posted on one that asked if a submissive can train a domly person.

And, I feel like people don't look past the very surface of things far too often.

While no, I don't think a submissive can train someone who is dominant in a princessy sort of way, there is a sort of training that occurs whenever two people form any sort of bond.

Friends figure out what sort of music they both enjoy to listen to together, or what their favorite candy is for when they have a bad day.
Vanilla relationships learn about favorite restaurants, how they enjoy their coffee fixed, and what sorts of video games they can binge play.

And in power exchange, we learn things like how a submissive asks for attention, if they enjoy pain as a reward, or need it to be like a punishment to enjoy it, if they get off on dehumanization, or if it makes them squick. 

Part of any relationship is learning about each other.  It's a factor that makes the beginning of any partnership so exciting.  Learning those little details, and seeing how they work together is fun, and if you pay attention, that learning and training never really ends.  As we all grow and evolve, we should be looking to our partner to see how they do as well, and enjoy seeing how they become a more fantastic person is how any relationship stays strong.

Those little details and nuances are extremely important in making any friend or partner truly happy.  It's not difficult, it only takes some real care for those you want around you.