I'm a language nerd. Whether it is listening to the speech patterns of others, or learning the odd ways that the English language works, I am absolutely enthralled with communication. Whenever I can, I will teach myself bits of other languages and dialects; learning the littlest inflections on accents to make sure everything sounds and translates perfectly. One of my favorite innate skills is actually my ability to understand spoken language, being able to translate for people, even if I can't speak a word of it.
On Christmas, I posted some examples of how I also enjoy simply listening to some voices. Not in the ASMR aspect, as I don't really enjoy that, but some voices turn me on at a normal speaking tone, far more than most people realize, and more than the vast majority of my partners in the past had thought to utilize.
And no, I'm not necessarily referring to dirty talk, but I'm getting there. Simply having serious conversation in the right tone will make my clothes explode off my person. Hell, even silly times when spoken the right way will. It all goes into tonality.
And adding hokey porn tones to it doesn't do it at all. In fact, it will just make me giggle, and feel like you're trying too hard. Sure, for partners I've been with a while, sometimes it will make me giggle and snuggle, but generally, it just comes off like a desperate attempt to get in my pants, and desperation in even the smallest amount will get you nowhere.
Now, when it comes to actual dirty talk, a lot of the time, that makes me giggle. It sounds hokey, and forced, and scripted, and I find it distracting. I've had partners in the past that I've told to just shut up, because their talking during sex was more bothersome to me than anything. It sounds rehearsed, and routine, and not organic, the way all things during sex should be, at least for me.
As a side note, boys making general sexy time noises though, always yes, and always more please.
Personally, I have issues with dirty talk in person. Like most verbal communication, I am constantly trying to put things together in the best possible way, and while this can make me fantastically witty in social situations, it slows me down a lot of the time. During serious conversation, I'm making sure I want to be understood entirely. During sexual situations, I don't want anything to sound stale, or routine. Those moments where I'm left putting together responses, I can much better say with a kiss or a touch.
There's also this little issue I have during sex or play. When things are going well, I am unable to speak. I make plenty of happy noises, so it's obvious things are good, but forming words and making them come out of my face just doesn't work. I may be thinking of a thousand different things to say, but very seldom do any of them get said. Often times tops have to pull words out of me, even though I can respond non-verbally to anything they ask.
And if anything goes wrong, or needs adjusting, I can get those words out no problem. My mind clears, and I can speak without issue to get things going smoothly again. Once things get going again though, my ability to speak gets put aside, and I'm right back to happy noises with no real words coming out.
However, even if I can't respond, a partner using their voice can absolutely be a wonderful tool. It's all just about keeping things organic, and having fun.
On Christmas, I posted some examples of how I also enjoy simply listening to some voices. Not in the ASMR aspect, as I don't really enjoy that, but some voices turn me on at a normal speaking tone, far more than most people realize, and more than the vast majority of my partners in the past had thought to utilize.
And no, I'm not necessarily referring to dirty talk, but I'm getting there. Simply having serious conversation in the right tone will make my clothes explode off my person. Hell, even silly times when spoken the right way will. It all goes into tonality.
And adding hokey porn tones to it doesn't do it at all. In fact, it will just make me giggle, and feel like you're trying too hard. Sure, for partners I've been with a while, sometimes it will make me giggle and snuggle, but generally, it just comes off like a desperate attempt to get in my pants, and desperation in even the smallest amount will get you nowhere.
Now, when it comes to actual dirty talk, a lot of the time, that makes me giggle. It sounds hokey, and forced, and scripted, and I find it distracting. I've had partners in the past that I've told to just shut up, because their talking during sex was more bothersome to me than anything. It sounds rehearsed, and routine, and not organic, the way all things during sex should be, at least for me.
As a side note, boys making general sexy time noises though, always yes, and always more please.
Personally, I have issues with dirty talk in person. Like most verbal communication, I am constantly trying to put things together in the best possible way, and while this can make me fantastically witty in social situations, it slows me down a lot of the time. During serious conversation, I'm making sure I want to be understood entirely. During sexual situations, I don't want anything to sound stale, or routine. Those moments where I'm left putting together responses, I can much better say with a kiss or a touch.
There's also this little issue I have during sex or play. When things are going well, I am unable to speak. I make plenty of happy noises, so it's obvious things are good, but forming words and making them come out of my face just doesn't work. I may be thinking of a thousand different things to say, but very seldom do any of them get said. Often times tops have to pull words out of me, even though I can respond non-verbally to anything they ask.
And if anything goes wrong, or needs adjusting, I can get those words out no problem. My mind clears, and I can speak without issue to get things going smoothly again. Once things get going again though, my ability to speak gets put aside, and I'm right back to happy noises with no real words coming out.
However, even if I can't respond, a partner using their voice can absolutely be a wonderful tool. It's all just about keeping things organic, and having fun.
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