I enjoy reading tags on posts. Sometimes they are funny, or provide insight to how a post is meant to be viewed. There are times when I find the tags themselves more interesting than the post.
Sometimes on Tumblr though, I see a pile of people just humping each other, each with the tag "Romantic".
It makes me think of how the gnome would say he was being romantic with me any time he wanted to fuck and was trying to kiss me.
Then I see pictures of people holding hands. Of one person resting their head on the chest of another. Of pouncing on a partner and giggling. And these are simply given the tag "cute".
I see far more romance in these moments than any picture of people fucking. Snuggling up shows trust, care, and compassion. While these may be present while fucking someone, it's certainly not always the case.
We don't hold hands with people we've just started having sex with. We don't curl up in their lap and let down walls. We don't wrap our arms around them while out just have those moments of contact.
And those moments, those are romantic.
When you show that you've hit a point where you can share those little touches. Those things that aren't charged by lust, but simply care, and wanting to feel the other person near you, to settle one or both of you.
I think that many people intimacy for lust. That physical desire is romantic, and this is why so many people feel like they have to be in love with whoever they fuck. And that's not always the case. We may have someone that we feel intense physical chemistry with, but never feel safe enough to really let down walls and share ourselves with them. Then there may be someone else, who may not be someone we are physically drawn to, but we feel connected, and even just while speaking, you can feel how much emotion is being exchanged, and small little touches create a more emotionally satisfying feeling than most sex could.
Now, that's not to say that sex can't be romantic. I find power exchange can be full of romance, and things like choking, and intense beatings to be very intimate acts due to the amount of trust necessary. A romantic conversation sharing ideas and thoughts and theories can lead to sex just due to the attraction it causes.
I feel sometimes like it is part of society pushing it's stigma of sex on us. That we should only have sex with those we love, and thereby it becomes something romantic. Romance is supposed to mean love, right? Those moments we share with those other people though, they couldn't possibly be romantic, because we're not in a relationship and boning.
Sometimes society loses point.
And by sometimes, I mean all the ruddy time.
Sometimes on Tumblr though, I see a pile of people just humping each other, each with the tag "Romantic".
It makes me think of how the gnome would say he was being romantic with me any time he wanted to fuck and was trying to kiss me.
Then I see pictures of people holding hands. Of one person resting their head on the chest of another. Of pouncing on a partner and giggling. And these are simply given the tag "cute".
I see far more romance in these moments than any picture of people fucking. Snuggling up shows trust, care, and compassion. While these may be present while fucking someone, it's certainly not always the case.
We don't hold hands with people we've just started having sex with. We don't curl up in their lap and let down walls. We don't wrap our arms around them while out just have those moments of contact.
And those moments, those are romantic.
When you show that you've hit a point where you can share those little touches. Those things that aren't charged by lust, but simply care, and wanting to feel the other person near you, to settle one or both of you.
I think that many people intimacy for lust. That physical desire is romantic, and this is why so many people feel like they have to be in love with whoever they fuck. And that's not always the case. We may have someone that we feel intense physical chemistry with, but never feel safe enough to really let down walls and share ourselves with them. Then there may be someone else, who may not be someone we are physically drawn to, but we feel connected, and even just while speaking, you can feel how much emotion is being exchanged, and small little touches create a more emotionally satisfying feeling than most sex could.
Now, that's not to say that sex can't be romantic. I find power exchange can be full of romance, and things like choking, and intense beatings to be very intimate acts due to the amount of trust necessary. A romantic conversation sharing ideas and thoughts and theories can lead to sex just due to the attraction it causes.
I feel sometimes like it is part of society pushing it's stigma of sex on us. That we should only have sex with those we love, and thereby it becomes something romantic. Romance is supposed to mean love, right? Those moments we share with those other people though, they couldn't possibly be romantic, because we're not in a relationship and boning.
Sometimes society loses point.
And by sometimes, I mean all the ruddy time.
So true. Romance seems to be twisted in today's society. I find an evening sitting at Sir's feet, head pillowed on his leg so intimate and definitely more romantic than pure animal fucking (though that has its intimacies and merits, is not really romantic).
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