Sometimes, Lux streams himself playing video games with his friends. I get to giggle at silly things, sometimes help, and enjoy seeing and hearing from people.
He always tells them, just in case someone pops onto the stream that we don't know, so they can censor any personal stuff. Usually though, I'm the only one watching, and he tells them. And in the cloud of folks saying hi, if there is someone new, I will hear a "What's a [Loki]?"
And, last time, one of our friends just said "It's complicated"
Lux was quick to correct him, but rather than letting Lux get to explaining, or simply asking for a title we use, said that.
But, it's really only complicated if you only want to use titles that wouldn't apply. There are many things that would work at this point and be perfectly acceptable.
Long term partner
Primary partner
Submissive
Best Friend
All things that would work, but just don't hold stereotypical romantic relationships behind them.
Sometimes, I think about how comfortable I am with the fact that Lux and I do just enjoy having the other around, and don't care about outside relationship obligations, and instead just being healthy for each other. Other times, I'm reminded that simple titles do make things easier fairly often for everyone to show how we're connected.
At the end of the day, it's about the happiness of the people involved rather than ease for everyone else, and if you actually look at a dynamic, you'll often find plenty of easy ways to explain it.
He always tells them, just in case someone pops onto the stream that we don't know, so they can censor any personal stuff. Usually though, I'm the only one watching, and he tells them. And in the cloud of folks saying hi, if there is someone new, I will hear a "What's a [Loki]?"
And, last time, one of our friends just said "It's complicated"
Lux was quick to correct him, but rather than letting Lux get to explaining, or simply asking for a title we use, said that.
But, it's really only complicated if you only want to use titles that wouldn't apply. There are many things that would work at this point and be perfectly acceptable.
Long term partner
Primary partner
Submissive
Best Friend
All things that would work, but just don't hold stereotypical romantic relationships behind them.
Sometimes, I think about how comfortable I am with the fact that Lux and I do just enjoy having the other around, and don't care about outside relationship obligations, and instead just being healthy for each other. Other times, I'm reminded that simple titles do make things easier fairly often for everyone to show how we're connected.
At the end of the day, it's about the happiness of the people involved rather than ease for everyone else, and if you actually look at a dynamic, you'll often find plenty of easy ways to explain it.
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