Thrax used to constantly refer to people as "spinning plates", which was something I hated. Any time you compare someone to something mundane and generic, it's showing you don't see them as a complex unique being. And always when using this, he would say that my plate was "well spun", and use it as an excuse to ignore me, thinking I was perfectly happy being on the backburner, as he spent all his time, money, and energy, attempting to woo toxic girls, despite my speaking up about issues.
He was so concerned with just obtaining people, and then seeing them as taken care of just because they were present. He would constantly neglect me, thinking I was happy despite my blatently saying otherwise.
People, especially significant important partners, are not spinning plates. They aren't something you just check in with once in a while, or put work in at the beginning, and then move onto the next. It creates that cycle of neglect, occasionally looking and caring for half a second before going away again. That's a cycle of abuse to be honest. Maybe not super hardcore, but it's a major indication of it.
Consistent, regular care of partners is so important. Never stop because things are comfortable. Always ask questions, and show affection, in whatever way you did in the beginning. Never get complacent, and especially with multiple partners, always be sure to keep a balance with all of them. Check in regularly, even when things are smooth.
Once you're going through the motions of a relationship, or if you just follow a routine because to keep your partner quiet, there are far more issues than can taken care of.
Comments
Post a Comment