The other day Lux and I were having a pretty long conversation about a lot of things. And while it definitely rolled through a few subjects, we discussed a lot of what piques different parts of our brains, and the like.
Of course, it started by me needing to remind him that I do actually respond to discipline, so long as whatever is happening is being said that it's discipline, and there then is a presence of positive reinforcement for good things as well. I think Lux often forgets this just because we keep things pretty neutral, and most of the time when he does something that would be seen as punishment to other dynamics, I find it fun and encouraging because I'm not being told it should be otherwise.
We also talked about how a lot of the time, I tell him he's in charge because so much of our dynamic is based on very simple respect, and not a lot of active power exchange. About how he enjoys exerting some amount of territorial possessiveness on occasion, and how he always has the option to do so more often.
It wasn't a bad conversation, to be sure. I feel like with so many things either relaxing finally, or working toward adjustment and change, this may be something too that can become more present again.
Of course, it started by me needing to remind him that I do actually respond to discipline, so long as whatever is happening is being said that it's discipline, and there then is a presence of positive reinforcement for good things as well. I think Lux often forgets this just because we keep things pretty neutral, and most of the time when he does something that would be seen as punishment to other dynamics, I find it fun and encouraging because I'm not being told it should be otherwise.
We also talked about how a lot of the time, I tell him he's in charge because so much of our dynamic is based on very simple respect, and not a lot of active power exchange. About how he enjoys exerting some amount of territorial possessiveness on occasion, and how he always has the option to do so more often.
It wasn't a bad conversation, to be sure. I feel like with so many things either relaxing finally, or working toward adjustment and change, this may be something too that can become more present again.
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