A Little Different

 While Rabbit and I were sharing a myriad of things, the conversation bounced around and we got to talking about the idea of intimacy.  We spoke about how for most people, intimacy and romance is exclusively surrounding the physical, and sexual aspects of a relationship.  Then we agreed that on the scale of things, for us that's fairly low, and we enjoy that.

And I'm fairly certain I've written about this before, but I am feeling more appreciative of it now, after having the talk which makes it more relevant.  

We talked about how it's the hard conversations that feel intimate for us.  The times that we can share, and open our hearts and feelings to each other.  The times when we curl up and share our favorite movies, or show each other the things that shaped us into who we are.  Things like sharing food, or a quiet cup of coffee.  Lending books, or just curling up on the couch and sharing memories.  Talking about our anxieties, and fears, and feeling safe to do so.  

For us, sex is a serious thing, given the inherent risk level and all involved, just as is kink, but for us that's something extra.  It's something we just want to do together, like going to get ice cream, or deciding to play a video game together, or watch a new show.  It's something we do as a part of a relationship, but not necessarily something intimate.

Honestly, it's something that I greatly appreciate about us. That we can acknowledge and see the importance in those moments where we truly open up and share, knowing that those are the things that are vital to a healthy relationship.  We very frequently mention how grateful we are to be able to have the hard conversations, which are very rarely if ever about bad things, but it's still so uncommon to be able to actually share, speak, and grow together.

I hope that's something that doesn't change between us.  Where we can share the important things forever, and always feel closer for it, rather than just the physical things that we could do with anyone.