Lux and I wound up having little comments about my visit. About things regarding play and dynamics and such.
It popped into my head, and I asked, if we should sit down and do a proper renewal of negotiations. When we first got together, we never really did much in the way of negotiations at all. He looked through my fet writings, saw my limits, and went from there. Then we just sort of learned each other along the way. And while that was fantastic in the moment when we had no overly elaborate scenes planned, and wanted to build a friendship rather than just play, it may be time for a more formal revisit.
We've been together for over five years, and in that time, while not much has changed in regards to limits or interests, in some ways we've gotten complacent. We have anxiety because we haven't sat to really talk about all of those things. As much as we don't have a routine, we often fall into the same pool of things we know we enjoy.
And, it isn't bad. Not at all.
But we need that revisit, for our own comfort. A mental check in, where we can fix what needs to be fixed, relax where we can, and keep having the happy thing we do.
I often see people talk about contracts and renewing them every few years. Neither Lux nor I have ever had a primary partner long enough to really hit that point, so perhaps there is some merit to it.
Perhaps out of this we'll wind up with some dopey form of contract that only we can understand. Something more based in creating mutual happiness than one of possession.
There's always new adventures, no matter how long you're with someone.
It popped into my head, and I asked, if we should sit down and do a proper renewal of negotiations. When we first got together, we never really did much in the way of negotiations at all. He looked through my fet writings, saw my limits, and went from there. Then we just sort of learned each other along the way. And while that was fantastic in the moment when we had no overly elaborate scenes planned, and wanted to build a friendship rather than just play, it may be time for a more formal revisit.
We've been together for over five years, and in that time, while not much has changed in regards to limits or interests, in some ways we've gotten complacent. We have anxiety because we haven't sat to really talk about all of those things. As much as we don't have a routine, we often fall into the same pool of things we know we enjoy.
And, it isn't bad. Not at all.
But we need that revisit, for our own comfort. A mental check in, where we can fix what needs to be fixed, relax where we can, and keep having the happy thing we do.
I often see people talk about contracts and renewing them every few years. Neither Lux nor I have ever had a primary partner long enough to really hit that point, so perhaps there is some merit to it.
Perhaps out of this we'll wind up with some dopey form of contract that only we can understand. Something more based in creating mutual happiness than one of possession.
There's always new adventures, no matter how long you're with someone.
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