Apparently, we're in the middle of a thing right now.
Something I don't even normally think about, or remember exists.
Apparently "break-up season" is a thing, and we're right inside it. I saw that some immense percentage of breakups happen within two weeks of either Christmas, or Valentine's day. And while I admit to having caused a Valentine's day massacre in the past when I kicked out the gnome, I never realize how common a thing this is.
And I wonder why it's so much of a thing. Is it the fear of awkward holidays? The stress of this time of year causing issues that already exist to become unbearable? The strange frequency of cheating the occurs at holiday parties?
Somehow, what is supposed to be a happy time of year to bring us together and show appreciation, is the perfect storm of scenarios to tear people apart. Strange how that happens.
It's weird to be so distanced from this though. To have happy dynamics, where I look forward to the chance to spend time with partners, or do things together and build affection and connection and show appreciation. And perhaps that physical distance is a blessing and a curse in this, because while I do hate my partners being so far away, but we don't have the worry about sharing everything going on this time of year, as we have our own lives to live in different spaces. By the time we are sharing space, we are just happy to spend time together.
We also put a lot of work into making sure our relationship is healthy, and communicate, and try to take care of each other as best we can, which might have something to do with it too.
Either way, just further thoughts on how the holidays are far more pressuring than they should be for everything that they are supposed to encourage.
Something I don't even normally think about, or remember exists.
Apparently "break-up season" is a thing, and we're right inside it. I saw that some immense percentage of breakups happen within two weeks of either Christmas, or Valentine's day. And while I admit to having caused a Valentine's day massacre in the past when I kicked out the gnome, I never realize how common a thing this is.
And I wonder why it's so much of a thing. Is it the fear of awkward holidays? The stress of this time of year causing issues that already exist to become unbearable? The strange frequency of cheating the occurs at holiday parties?
Somehow, what is supposed to be a happy time of year to bring us together and show appreciation, is the perfect storm of scenarios to tear people apart. Strange how that happens.
It's weird to be so distanced from this though. To have happy dynamics, where I look forward to the chance to spend time with partners, or do things together and build affection and connection and show appreciation. And perhaps that physical distance is a blessing and a curse in this, because while I do hate my partners being so far away, but we don't have the worry about sharing everything going on this time of year, as we have our own lives to live in different spaces. By the time we are sharing space, we are just happy to spend time together.
We also put a lot of work into making sure our relationship is healthy, and communicate, and try to take care of each other as best we can, which might have something to do with it too.
Either way, just further thoughts on how the holidays are far more pressuring than they should be for everything that they are supposed to encourage.
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