About a month ago now, I finally had some time to have Zero over for the birthday fire we had planned to have in the summer. It wound up being a long evening with him and his spouse, who no one is terribly fond of.
And every time I see him lately, I realize more and more how little growth he's done.
He's on medical marijuana now, and claiming it's made him all better. But he's still not doing anything he knows he should until he's told that he has to. It's made it not so he has an urge to do better, but made him happy with complacency. He traded drinking as a coping mechanism with one a doctor told him was ok, and telling himself that it's fixed everything.
I also took the time to look at his relationship. His spouse has only become more and more of an empty human. She has zero interests that aren't ones he had first, and all of those are things she barely touches. To top it off, anything she does she has minimal skill with, but thinks she's amazing at, and finds herself constantly making excuses as to why she has to do everything she does.
Zero depends on her for everything at home. He doesn't do anything to actually take care of himself, and to be honest, has no idea how to. Likewise, she has no other people, and depends on him for everything. It's a cycle of codependency on both sides that isn't healthy.
There's no affection there. No attachment, no connection. Just complacency and codependency that makes me feel badly for Zero at the end of the day. He's always been so afraid of change, and felt so much pressure for the relationship escalator that he lost true ambition along the way, and it's given him a situation that I don't think he'll ever really find happiness in.
It's unfortunate seeing how so many of the people he kept around have grown, and he just stayed put.
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