The other day, I was talking to Lux (more on that later maybe), and I mentioned how Squishy is very susceptible to marketing, and societal expectation.
There have been many times when she's asked for something, and I know it isn't something she actually wants, but something everyone else has, or something that seems like the cool thing to do at her age.
Most recently, because she's going to be going through puberty soon, she's talking about how she wants a big butt and big boobs when she gets older. Lux immediately asked if she has access to Instagram, and wondering where she got the idea. I told him that she didn't, but figured it was something she saw somewhere else that was to blame. I also told him that I had explained to Squishy the practical reasons against it.
And it's happened a lot with things, for years. She goes through these phases of wanting what is pushed by the kids in school, or by what she sees online. She says she wants to like things the normal kids like.
And it's hard, but I enforce hard at the age she is that she needs to just try and be her, and enjoy the things that she enjoys. As much as she wants to just fit in with the masses, she'll be unhappy when things are done, because she's just be trying to be liked, rather than being liked for being herself.
And now even with her body, I've been trying to teach her that she has the body she does, and she should be happy with that because it's different, and that it isn't her fault that clothing doesn't fit right, but it's just a cut that doesn't work on her.
She's learning that she can always find something that makes her happy, and feeling like her, and that's what she needs.
There have been many times when she's asked for something, and I know it isn't something she actually wants, but something everyone else has, or something that seems like the cool thing to do at her age.
Most recently, because she's going to be going through puberty soon, she's talking about how she wants a big butt and big boobs when she gets older. Lux immediately asked if she has access to Instagram, and wondering where she got the idea. I told him that she didn't, but figured it was something she saw somewhere else that was to blame. I also told him that I had explained to Squishy the practical reasons against it.
And it's happened a lot with things, for years. She goes through these phases of wanting what is pushed by the kids in school, or by what she sees online. She says she wants to like things the normal kids like.
And it's hard, but I enforce hard at the age she is that she needs to just try and be her, and enjoy the things that she enjoys. As much as she wants to just fit in with the masses, she'll be unhappy when things are done, because she's just be trying to be liked, rather than being liked for being herself.
And now even with her body, I've been trying to teach her that she has the body she does, and she should be happy with that because it's different, and that it isn't her fault that clothing doesn't fit right, but it's just a cut that doesn't work on her.
She's learning that she can always find something that makes her happy, and feeling like her, and that's what she needs.
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