While up in the city, Dansa and I went to a memorial for a friend who had passed away just before camp. I had wanted to go to support the people there, and hear the stories, and share some time learning about a person who I didn't have enough time with.
This memorial also happened to be in a leather bar. We had the upper bar before it opened, and then we would have the upstairs as a cigar lounge afterwards. So after listening and hugging, and remembering so many things, the bar was actually open, with music playing, and other people being allowed in.
And so, as we made our way up to the top floor, I kept hearing Dansa making comments about how wonderful the bar was because of all the topless men, and the gay porn playing on the tvs all around.
I was very clearly reminded of the comments she had made about Lux, where she had plainly stated that she wasn't attracted to him until she had a pansexual partner, and then wanted to see them together. Her fetishization of gay or bisexual men, and being attracted to them only to take advantage of their orientation.
She dissolved those people, and at that point Lux down to their sexuality, after also having conversations about being demisexual herself. To suddenly be attracted to these men just because she could think about them all together, it made me a bit grumpy.
We talk about the men who assume bisexual women mean threesomes and a ton of other things. We bring up how it's rude, and wrong to see from that side of things, but we don't talk about how it's just as bad when things are reversed.
Treat people like people, and when you're attracted to someone, be attracted for them, and not what butts they like to touch.
This memorial also happened to be in a leather bar. We had the upper bar before it opened, and then we would have the upstairs as a cigar lounge afterwards. So after listening and hugging, and remembering so many things, the bar was actually open, with music playing, and other people being allowed in.
And so, as we made our way up to the top floor, I kept hearing Dansa making comments about how wonderful the bar was because of all the topless men, and the gay porn playing on the tvs all around.
I was very clearly reminded of the comments she had made about Lux, where she had plainly stated that she wasn't attracted to him until she had a pansexual partner, and then wanted to see them together. Her fetishization of gay or bisexual men, and being attracted to them only to take advantage of their orientation.
She dissolved those people, and at that point Lux down to their sexuality, after also having conversations about being demisexual herself. To suddenly be attracted to these men just because she could think about them all together, it made me a bit grumpy.
We talk about the men who assume bisexual women mean threesomes and a ton of other things. We bring up how it's rude, and wrong to see from that side of things, but we don't talk about how it's just as bad when things are reversed.
Treat people like people, and when you're attracted to someone, be attracted for them, and not what butts they like to touch.
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