There's been quite a few talks with Squishy about things lately. Teaching her more interpersonal concepts, and aspects of healthy interaction. She's finally at an age where these things are relevant, and she's going to need those tools.
Well, we were playing Just Dance again, and she had picked a map that I hadn't really taken the time to listen to, because I'd only played it once. Because Squishy was dancing by herself, I could actually pay attention to lyrics of the song "Done For Me".
And in the middle of the song I started talking to her about how incredibly unhealthy the message was. It's a duet, where the girl is singing about how she stopped talking to everyone to make a boy happy, and never did anything wrong anyway. The guy is telling her that he's completely devoted and heartbroken, but wants to know what she is doing for him, because that isolation doesn't mean anything.
It's a toxic situation in nutshell. When I called out the song, Squishy asked why. As soon as I explained it, she went from feeling like it was normal, to realizing how fucked up it was, and I could see it on her face. She's dealt with friends who want to isolate her before, so she understands how wrong it is.
I have over time explained that she doesn't need to prove herself to anyone. That no one should demand everything from her, and she should simply show care and consideration for people, and if that isn't enough, they aren't worth her time. This was a perfect example of things she will find people try to do, and that she should never stand for it.
Everything is a teachable moment.
Well, we were playing Just Dance again, and she had picked a map that I hadn't really taken the time to listen to, because I'd only played it once. Because Squishy was dancing by herself, I could actually pay attention to lyrics of the song "Done For Me".
And in the middle of the song I started talking to her about how incredibly unhealthy the message was. It's a duet, where the girl is singing about how she stopped talking to everyone to make a boy happy, and never did anything wrong anyway. The guy is telling her that he's completely devoted and heartbroken, but wants to know what she is doing for him, because that isolation doesn't mean anything.
It's a toxic situation in nutshell. When I called out the song, Squishy asked why. As soon as I explained it, she went from feeling like it was normal, to realizing how fucked up it was, and I could see it on her face. She's dealt with friends who want to isolate her before, so she understands how wrong it is.
I have over time explained that she doesn't need to prove herself to anyone. That no one should demand everything from her, and she should simply show care and consideration for people, and if that isn't enough, they aren't worth her time. This was a perfect example of things she will find people try to do, and that she should never stand for it.
Everything is a teachable moment.
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